The Midnight Owl

Why are we so concerned about how we seem to others? If your intentions are truly pure and genuine then surely you should feel comfortable knowing that. Your behaviour can only reflect what it is you truly feel. We're too attached..to things and to people because we've been conditioned to want what feels good (thanks for opening my eyes to that one Leona lol). What's good for you won't always feel good and what feels good isn't what's always good for you. If you know you meant well and it is not received well, find solace in the fact that people will respond based on THEIR level of perception. If you spread positivity and all a person can do is see the negative in what you're saying and doing, WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WANT TO BE AROUND THEM? Could be your friend for a week or 10 years..but that was 10 years of you not living in your truth. Focus on what is needed RIGHT NOW for the person you want to become RIGHT NOW. If that means leaving a marriage, a friendsh...

Do not underestimate the power of words. You cannot be an advocate for change and in the same breath say that the thing you're trying to change is unchangeable. "I think this is a problem we need to change but..this will always be an issue" or "but this will never change" or "but that's just how it will always be." How can you be an advocate for a change if your words are followed by "but..."? You are contributing to the manifestation of things remaining how they are by saying that's how it will be. You may not realise it but it affects your approach to the situation as well as how you handle the minor failures along the way. Either you're for change or you're for leaving things as they are. But you cannot be both. Limitations and failures should be acknowledged as such..but what success story do you know that came without those things?

Sitting comfortably in a burning house Being fed, clothed and sheltered Your friends try to warn you "This house is on fire, we need to leave" But you resist because you're comfortable The people in flame retardant suits have made you comfortable So you thank them and worship them for keeping you comfortable in a burning house Your friends start planning to leave and urge you once more "I really think we should leave" You get angry "How could you insult those who have tried to make us comfortable?!" "But the house is burning..you're going to burn with it" "Then let me burn with it!" Then the fire reaches you..all of a sudden the things that brought you comfort become useless in the face of adversity You search for your friends who tried to warn you but they are long gone You have two options Fight for your life or surrender and burn Either you make decisions based on the warning signs or make life "easier" by ...

Dear wypipo The same way you feel like black people need to earn their way through life and for whatever reason "prove" to you that they're "not like the rest", y'all need to earn that trust back. The stories y'all were told about us were lies. You believed them and penalised us for things we haven't done or have used our skin tone (something we have 0 control over) as a means of justifying more extensive punishments. YOU created the stereotypes that you fear. The stories of your greed, disgusting rapey ways and blatant disregard for humanity and nature are TRUE. So don't come to me with "not all white people" cuz I'm really not trying to hear it. That's your culture. Stealing land and raping the women. Building off the backs of others. That is YOUR culture. Your treatment towards us is unjustified. Our distrusting ways when it comes to you is MORE than justified. YOU need to earn the people's trust back. Feeling like...

It really hurts to see when people post things like “trust no one” and “it’s just me, myself and I” or any other phrase implying their satisfaction with being alone all of the time and trusting themselves only (if that!). I used to do it. I knew how I really felt. I wondered how many other people also chose to lie to themselves like I did. My mistake was in thinking that requesting love was weak. What I realised was weak was masking it as confidence in and with myself. It reminded those I keep around that they should be constantly proving to me that they are worthy of being trusted. They were unexpectedly thrown into a constant battle to prove themselves worthy of my friendship. By not acknowledging them as trustworthy or worthy of my friendship, I communicated to them that they are not worthy. And as they began to believe it and accept it, they started giving up. I interpreted that as just another sign that you can’t trust anybody or that nobody is loyal. I believed nobody cared ab...

This is what happens when you don’t put labels. We all know there are cycles in life. So you (lady) meet a guy and he’s an advocate of “a bond is stronger than a title”. So you believe him because you have this amazing bond and you don’t want to screw it up. Then things get rocky and all of a sudden, that lack of title invites all types of subtleties and uncertainties. Things you were sure of or even things you never thought of or never thought would be a problem start to creep up. For some reason, he gets to dictate the rules of having this title-less bond. For some reason, his transgressions are not even really transgressions, as stated by the invisible ink on that contract you didn’t sign because in the framework of that confusionship, ‘transgressions’ cannot exist. He never vowed to be loyal to you. He just ensured you that there was a bond and that bond was stronger than the title you were seeking, making your treasured title of “woman” or “girlfriend” obsolete. Here’s where thin...