The Journey to Self


Why are we so concerned about how we seem to others? If your intentions are truly pure and genuine then surely you should feel comfortable knowing that. Your behaviour can only reflect what it is you truly feel. We're too attached..to things and to people because we've been conditioned to want what feels good (thanks for opening my eyes to that one Leona lol). What's good for you won't always feel good and what feels good isn't what's always good for you. If you know you meant well and it is not received well, find solace in the fact that people will respond based on THEIR level of perception. If you spread positivity and all a person can do is see the negative in what you're saying and doing, WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WANT TO BE AROUND THEM? Could be your friend for a week or 10 years..but that was 10 years of you not living in your truth. Focus on what is needed RIGHT NOW for the person you want to become RIGHT NOW. If that means leaving a marriage, a friendship, a job..whatever it is. You owe it to YOURSELF. Nobody is commending you for sacrificing your happiness to make other people happy. Nobody is commending you for always putting yourself last. And then we want to feel entitled to thank yous for doing things that 1. we weren't even asked to do and 2. isn't healthy for you. People say the hardest thing to do is take control of yourself but I think the hardest and most damaging thing to do is trying to control what happens to us and how we're perceived. Focus on becoming resilient to everything life throws at you..that's how we're able to remain steadfast and actually LEARN the lesson that life tried to teach us by putting us in a tough situation. When you focus on trying to control what happens to you, when something you don't want happens, all you see is failure. Because you feel like your efforts were in vain. They were! And they will continue to be as long as you think you think you have that control. We can't control ourselves to stop eating unhealthy foods and procrastinating and starting healthy habits but we can somehow control other people and situations? Lol when did we become so arrogant? We're so focused on making sure everything LOOKS good and we end up in shallow relationships and unhappy situations that LOOK good to OTHERS..what about what looks and FEELS good to you? Doesn't that matter? The biggest lesson of adulthood for me was learning to stop waiting for permission. Learning to stop waiting for somebody to confirm for me that what I'm doing is right. How would they know anyway? How would they know BETTER THAN ME what is for me? Being wrong is not the end of the world. Being wrong teaches lessons being right could never teach. Being wrong teaches the biggest lesson of all: HUMILITY. We CANNOT know everything and we don't NEED to. So focus on seeking the knowledge and experiences that are meant to help you further yourself in order to give back. The idea that you need to be doing anything else is just an excuse, a distraction.

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